A Year of Clarity: Are you at peace with knowing, what you don't know about yourself!

A Year of Clarity:

Are you at peace with knowing, what you don't know about yourself!

My theme for this year was to find clarity in my total being. That included my career field, personal interest, short and long term goals; social encounters with others, purpose in life etc... you know what's crazy, I went into this journey looking for specific results and received a  completely different outcome. For example, I asked God to help me find clarity in all the things I had going on at that moment; and to let it be his will to grant those things for me. little did I know, some of the things I thought I wanted, I really didn't want or need. The path I was on, that I familiar with, the only path I knew; was a disinterest.

As I reflected on it all, I had to think to myself how is this true and why is it true? As I thought about it, I said to myself, because your not the same young lady you were yesterday; with that being said,everything and everybody around you had to adjust to your new self, way of thinking, journey, interest, everything that makes you, you! You'll be surprised the undiscovered potential you have within you; and how the lack of knowledge of not knowing yourself,has allowed you a new Perspective.

When we choose to find clarity, we can't choose what we want to see and obtain from  the results. We can't alter what we feel, or what's preordained in life. Allot of us suffer from lack of clarity, and that's Ok. So we go! we go on a quest for something we're unsure of. Clarity is suppose to allow us to see things clearly;in a way we can understand what we need, love, what makes us liberated, what makes us utilize our purpose in this world, and so on.

I challenge you to see where clarity takes you. Ask yourself, what part represents you, is your past state of mind, cohesive with your current state of mind? Are you at peace with knowing, what you don't know about yourself ? When it is all set is and done make a mental note, reflect on it and take  action; even if it wasn't the original plan. Always stay true to yourself and what you believe in; and don't be afraid to search for clarity and or accept what comes from it.

-Kishari


Quote of the Day!
" Find your measure(Purpose), operate within your measure and not beyond it". -T.d Jakes

Why Girls Love The Fall

I Want The Fall With You:

Why Girls Love The Fall 

"I want the Fall with you." I know someone is saying in the back of their mind. "Why is she talking about the fall season in Michigan, when its clearly winter." LOL The answer is, I just simply love the fall season; I look forward to that time of the year. As a matter of fact, I am not the only women, girl, young lady who loves the fall. If you're a women or young lady and can relate to some of these fall favorites, this is dedicated to you. Lets make it fun! Comment your own personal fall favorites or anything I may have left off the list.

List of fall favorites:

We love those windy days that makes the leaves blow.

Fresh air and a peace of mind.

Burning of scented candles 

Dating

Jackets, Sweaters, turtle necks, cardigans

Comfortable fitted Jeans Baby

Scarves

Fall Sunsets

Natural Hair and good hair days 

Shopping

Cozy spaces and warm blankets (Cuddling)

Chillin

Quiet time alone

Donuts and Apple cider

A good book (Make today Count by John C. Maxwell or the Alchemist By Paulo Coelho)

Listening to Music (Drake, J. Cole, Trey songz etc...:)

Live concerts

Selfies

A great chick flick, comedy movie etc...(Love Jones :)

Coffee, Coffee, Coffee... Hot chocolate, Tea etc...

Thanksgiving

Baking tasty treats

Food (Girls love to eat ;)

BOOTS of all forms: ankle, tall, booties, heels boots

colorful beautiful leaves

Bike riding

Driving the long way home

Halloween costumes  

Wine, Wine, Wine

Viewing Art

Blogging, Vlogging...

Fall Weddings

City Views

Texting Buddy

Love seeing Happy People walk by

Downtown Fun 

Spending time with Family

                                                   Enjoying the company of friends.

Creating Memories

Journaling

Fall Decorations and Decor 

Reflecting on life, the year

                                                      and so much more.....

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"The trees are about to show us how lovely it is to let the dead things go." -Unknown 

Taking Time for Yourself

Taking Time for Yourself

"You have to find what's therapeutic for you, because sometimes we wake up and we may not feel the same way we felt yesterday" -Kendrick Lamar

Life itself and the loads of things that come along with it, such as circumstances, struggles, obstacles, trials and tribulations etc.. The people we encounter can be overwhelming as well.  Some people look at taking losses as being a bad thing. I view it as God's way of closing certain doors that were not meant for you. When God made the decision to close those doors, he already had other plans to open up another one. We can not receive the blessings in life God has prepared for us, if we don't open our minds to a new perspective. 

The minds is constantly racing about important matters; not so important matters and even things we have no control over. Sometimes there are people feeding us information that will help us grow and or keep us down. What's important to you might not be as important to others. We may also do things to keep ourselves down, if we are not careful when negativity comes barging into our lives. Take care of you first spiritually, mentally and emotionally. When you embrace that kind of energy, you'll find yourself being a voice not only for yourself but uplifting others around you; with wisdom, knowledge and self control.  

Take care of yourself, take time for yourself alone, love yourself, find a hobby, find your peace that sets you free... and just do the things that matter to you; and I allow everything to come into perspective. 

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"What you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you". -Unknown

Forgiveness is for you

Forgiveness is for You!!!

I am sure we have all seen this movie more than once in our lives; and if you have not you should definitely check it out. "He Got Game" is a great movie; I know some of you are thinking that it is just a movie. I find that this was a great representation for the purpose of this blog post, which is forgiveness. Moral of the story:The absent father returns home and forced to deal with his past sins and the people he hurt; in which the son is also put in the position to either forgive his father or hold on to the past. When someone does something to hurt us, we naturally put up our guards. That is totally okay because we are human. We are allowed to feel sad, grieve or do whatever it is that helps us cope with betrayal. I am a living witness to attest, amazing things happen when you choose to forgive.

 Forgiveness challenges us to go against the grain. In some cases sometimes we don't really want to forgive others, but when you really think about it; forgiving that person is definitely serving you. I hear some people say, some things are just unforgiveable. I respect that people have their own perspective on forgiveness; but honestly, those are the images people create for themselves inside of their minds, based off what they are currently feeling about being betrayed. We control our own thoughts and if we think we can't forgive then we won't.  

We have all experienced a time in our lives where we did not want to forgive someone. I've come to a conclusion that there is a deeper meaning behind forgiveness and what it can do for you. The real question is, are you open to it? Before anything you have to first forgive yourself for beating yourself up and for ignoring the signs. Who's to say when we will get hurt? That is a theory that will always remain unpredictable. 

For myself being hurt by others forced me to have a stronger mindset, a better perspective on life,  who I am; how I respond to situations I had complete control over and what I am capable of doing about it. The worst thing you can do is  cling to old feelings or hatred towards others. I am not suggesting that a memory in the past will completely be erased from your thoughts. I am simply saying, when you find the will to forgive, it will grant you a peace of mind, a better feeling about yourself or that person etc... You have to choose to look at things and people in a way that will help you heal, grow; and make the world around you more positive. "Don't put off  tomorrow, what you can do today, because tomorrow is never promised".

Forgive her, Forgive him, forgive All......

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"You never know what you can do, until you are put in the position to forgive and forced to deal with it". -Kishari

Stop Allowing people to use your Past Against you

Stop Allowing People to use your Past Against you

When we allow people to use our past against us, we are giving them the rights to our Power. As we look into the past for ourselves, we find that it is either good or bad, happy or sad moments; or maybe even painful and or amazing memories. The past is not always a bad experience, you just have to decide for yourself how that represents you. while looking into your own past or allowing others to use it against you, will you allow yourself to grow or remain in a defensive and vulnerable state of mind about your past?

When it comes to the past some people become very defensive.They feel the need to defend themselves against an Irrelevant part of their lives. They need to convince others on how their past doesn't compare to their present.  I am here to tell you right now, "You don't owe nobody anything".  You owe it to yourself to acknowledge your wrong doings and make the necessary adjustments for the greater good. What some people already know, but choose not to acknowledge because they're still on the defensive mode; is that whatever happened in the past is all forgiven by God. All that is left for you to do, is accepting what once was, what is now and moving on.

If you want to remember something great about the past, know that it has made some of us stronger, better and humble; as we step into our beings. It has granted us better decision making. Most of all it has given us choices to look at life in a new way. You just have to remember who you are right now. You are building upon your potential and no one can diminish that potential by using your past against.

-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!

"What they say I'm not, I know I am." -Kishari 

Starting Over: Don't Be Afraid to Start Over

Starting Over:

Don't Be Afraid to Start Over

At times we find ourselves in situations that do not serve us in any way, shape or form; in yet we still allow ourselves to go through the process of self discovery. That is because we are still learning and growing into to our beings. Imagine waking up in the morning realizing you have a different perspective on certain things or life in general. Yes, you thought you knew yourself, but really you don't. I spent the past few years stepping into my Self Love journey, and didn't have a choice to notice a change in surroundings, people, perspective, personal and professional interest etc...  I can't stress enough how much I have been a disappointment to God, his name and his word; But he keeps me because he knows that we are all  imperfect. Everything that I am experiencing has a deeper meaning to it and I am not afraid to figure it out.

One of the main reasons we exist today, is because God has a purpose for each and every one of us. There is a reason for it all and if you are not doing everything in your power to step into that power of purpose; then what is the point? We have to leave this earth trying to figure out our purpose, or we have to die trying. Its okay if you have to start over; because when you get to the beginning where it all started, you are able to find the root of the problems, insecurities, self doubt, inadequacy; or what every obstacle it may be for you.

Its okay to feel what you feel and allow it to manifest within itself and your life.  " Its that feeling you get and you say to yourself, am I doing life right"-Issa Rae.To be honest I don't know, but one thing I know for sure, I am doing everything in my power to figure that part of my life out.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

" Can I live, laugh and learn how to love my way." -Kishari

The Singles Club:Dating with Purpose, Acceptance, Expectations, Consistency, Letting go of the notion for closure...

The Singles Club:

Dating with Purpose, Acceptance, Setting Boundaries, Standards, Expectations, Consistency, Deal Breakers, Letting go of the notion for closure...

Calling all Singles! Yes it is time for me to finally go there. My name is Kishari and I am happily single. Being single has it's lonely moments but it also has its high moments as well. I don't know about you but I'm enjoying my singleness; being single is not a bad thing at all. Sometimes dating can be annoying. (LOL) I want to touch on the dating world, My experience and perspective on dating in general.

What I believe dating to be, is two individuals getting to know each other on a Intellectual level; and eventually can potentially turn into something more. What I mean by more is, a man pursuing a woman, committed to her only; with the purpose of one day calling her his wife. I've always been big on purpose in every aspect of my life. I believe every men and women should date with a purpose and not just date to date. If one is just dating just to date someone, there is no real connection between the two to build upon. You can build off purpose! Dating can be viewed as a personal goal; either it works or not. At the end of the day you can say to that men or women, you gave it your best shot; and that's what matters, knowing you tried to put one hundred percent in the relationship.

We all want to be accepted for who we are; but unfortunately we live in a society that tells us, we have to look a certain way to be and feel beautiful. Some of us are very blessed to come across great individuals who will praise you; no matter what color you are, if you have kinky or straight hair. It should all be viewed as beautiful creations of God. Coming from my dating experience, there were men who didn't like the fact I sometimes wear weaves and not my natural hair; or the fact that I didn't dress sexy enough for a date. That was something I couldn't help them with because I did not plan on changing who I am for anyone. That's where setting boundaries comes into play. People can only get away with what you allow. you have to set your boundaries, make your request known at the beginning stages; and always remain true to yourself and what you believe in. God made me who I am and what I have to offer, for someone special; who will accept me for who I am when the time is right.

When dating does not work out for you, its not the end of the world. You just continue being who you are and keep moving forward. Someone great and meant just for you is coming  your way soon. we have to start letting go of the notion for closure. Why is it that some of us need closure so badly, we go through extreme measures just to find out what we already know. "We are on a quest for answers to questions we think we need; and never stop to realize, the answer is always in the question." - Iyanla Vanzant

There it is right there! If you have to constantly ask yourself questions about whether

someone is consistent enough or if we are enough for that person; then maybe you are not and that's okay.You have the look at the possibility that you are not for everybody and everybody is not for you. We expect so much from others without considering it all as a whole. Acceptance, Boundaries, Standards, Expectations, Consistency, Deal Breakers; it all plays a role in dating. People like what they like and want what they want; I can respect that from someone who is being real with me.

We are all reserved for someone special and you should feel blessed about that. Make sure you enjoy your singleness and make it a good experience. When that special person finally comes  around,you will be enough, worthy, accepted, treated with respect etc... Always remember to date with a purpose in mind and never settle for what's expected.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"We are on a quest for answers to questions we think we need; and never stop to realize, the answer is always in the question." - Iyanla Vanzant

Other Plans!!! Are you content with your job or career?

Other Plans!!!

Are you content with your job or career?

I don't know about you but I want more. To be honest for some individuals, where they are right now is just as great as it gets for them; and that's okay if one finds contentment in that job and or career. Most of my inspiration for my writing comes from my personal experience, thoughts and feelings. One thing I've learned about inspiration, its all around you; whether its in a person, place or thing,  you just have to be open to the possibility.

I will be the first to admit, "I am not content with my job." I currently been working as a Nursing Assistant in a hospital for almost two years now; and don't get me wrong I feel valuable and honored to be apart of something great and impactful. I love helping people and I enjoy providing my patients with the care they need; to feel comfortable and have a positive healing process. One thing that is clear to me, I truly know in my heart that this is not where God wants me to be. I definitely believe he has a better plan, specifically for my life purpose; and the many things I am called to do in life.

If you too struggle with a job you don't feel content with, this message is for you too. The more out of place he or she feels, the eager ones quest for contentment becomes. Iyanla Vanzant once said, "The passion represents those things that you pursue for the sheer joy of it - those things that you do that make you feel alive and meaningful, valuable and worthy."

We all deserve a passion that allows us to express who we are; that makes us feel alive and free to be who we choose to be. I say if you are happy where you are, then be happy; and if you know its time for a change, then take that chance. Choosing a career can sometimes be difficult, but when you finally figure it out; you experience that desire of fulfillment. If you don't get it right the first time, its not the end of the world; well not just yet lol. Anything that God places on your heart is worth pursuing, but you never know if you don't try. Always remember, your now is temporary until you are ready for your permanent. Appreciate what you have and stay humble, until better opportunities present themselves to you.

With love, Kishari

Quote of the Day  

"Take what you are, what you have, what you can do and make it work for you." -Iyanla Vanzant

I WANT IT RIGHT NOW!!!

We all have things we so desperately want when we want it. Truth of the matter is, we are not on our own time. Everything we do in life is a process, that happens for a reason. Some people might even feel it's a waste of time to go through different stages in life; We must not forget the bigger picture here, everything and everyone has its own time. A time for love, success, marriage, happiness, careers, etc...

 Life is happening, and it will not wait on you to catch up. You must be ready and willing to discover your God giving purpose in life. There may be more than one purpose in life for you, and you must be open to them. I use to think and say to myself (yes I talk to myself sometimes LOL), “Why am I experiencing so many setbacks, obstacles; to the point I cannot reach the level of security I needed in my finances, relationships, friendships etc.… I knew in my heart, I was doing the best that I could, and had to stop beating myself up about what I wasn’t ready for at the time that others had; and start appreciating what I do have right now. I wanted it all right now, but I knew I had to change my perspective and let things happen naturally.

As human beings, we must acknowledge when our lives change courses, it’s not always because we are doing something wrong; but simply because we are not ready for it. Always remember, you don’t always have to have things handed to you right now, it’s coming. God has a plan!

Enjoy the process, Kishari


Quote of the Day!

"There is a flow with your name on it. your job is to find that flow and let it carry you to the next level." -Oprah Winfrey

Who am I? A visionary with SomethingToSay

Who Am I

Hello, My name is Kishari Lomax and I am from Detroit, Michigan.

 10 facts about me

1. I love God.

2. I love to write.

3. I am a Virgo.

4. I love Mondays.

5. My favorite singers are Musiq Soulchild and Corinne Bailey Rae.

6. I am 27 years old.

7. I'm on a Self Love Journey.
8. I love natural hair.

9. I don't eat pork.

10. Pet peeve: gum poppers and food smackers. 

 Oh Just one more LOL...

11. I LOVE STARBUCKS

I am new to the blogging world and one thing that is clear, I love to write. It all started on my quest to finding myself. I decided to go on a Self Love Journey. This journey was going to be all about me and finding  my peace. Things in my life were simply not fulfilling, when it came to my career path, school, social life etc... Long story short I was simply not happy. I struggled with negativity and was in desperate need of a positive change. The year of 2014, was the year I started my self love journey and I discovered my passion for writing. I used writing as an outlet for self improvement and as a coping mechanism for stress. I also started to share my love for writing with friends, family and ordinary people; through daily interactions and social sites such as Facebook and Instagram. 

I believe everyone should have a voice; and God has placed something great on my heart and in my spirit, to do what I love and bestow goodness onto others in the process. I am a woman who has always believed in purpose and truly knows everything happens for a reason. This year I've been on a search for clarity; not only in my career but personal aspects of my life. Inspiration and my love for writing, is one of the reasons why I wanted to become a blogger.

My vision for this blog is to create inspiration and share my perspective on interesting topics; That will help bring positive energy and change throughout the world. I also want to express my perspective on other topics such as, self love, great music, natural hair; women empowerment, change and so much more. This is my life and these are my thoughts; I would love to share my journey with you all, while you create yours.

Yours Truly, Kishari