Stop Allowing people to use your Past Against you

Stop Allowing People to use your Past Against you

When we allow people to use our past against us, we are giving them the rights to our Power. As we look into the past for ourselves, we find that it is either good or bad, happy or sad moments; or maybe even painful and or amazing memories. The past is not always a bad experience, you just have to decide for yourself how that represents you. while looking into your own past or allowing others to use it against you, will you allow yourself to grow or remain in a defensive and vulnerable state of mind about your past?

When it comes to the past some people become very defensive.They feel the need to defend themselves against an Irrelevant part of their lives. They need to convince others on how their past doesn't compare to their present.  I am here to tell you right now, "You don't owe nobody anything".  You owe it to yourself to acknowledge your wrong doings and make the necessary adjustments for the greater good. What some people already know, but choose not to acknowledge because they're still on the defensive mode; is that whatever happened in the past is all forgiven by God. All that is left for you to do, is accepting what once was, what is now and moving on.

If you want to remember something great about the past, know that it has made some of us stronger, better and humble; as we step into our beings. It has granted us better decision making. Most of all it has given us choices to look at life in a new way. You just have to remember who you are right now. You are building upon your potential and no one can diminish that potential by using your past against.

-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!

"What they say I'm not, I know I am." -Kishari 

Starting Over: Don't Be Afraid to Start Over

Starting Over:

Don't Be Afraid to Start Over

At times we find ourselves in situations that do not serve us in any way, shape or form; in yet we still allow ourselves to go through the process of self discovery. That is because we are still learning and growing into to our beings. Imagine waking up in the morning realizing you have a different perspective on certain things or life in general. Yes, you thought you knew yourself, but really you don't. I spent the past few years stepping into my Self Love journey, and didn't have a choice to notice a change in surroundings, people, perspective, personal and professional interest etc...  I can't stress enough how much I have been a disappointment to God, his name and his word; But he keeps me because he knows that we are all  imperfect. Everything that I am experiencing has a deeper meaning to it and I am not afraid to figure it out.

One of the main reasons we exist today, is because God has a purpose for each and every one of us. There is a reason for it all and if you are not doing everything in your power to step into that power of purpose; then what is the point? We have to leave this earth trying to figure out our purpose, or we have to die trying. Its okay if you have to start over; because when you get to the beginning where it all started, you are able to find the root of the problems, insecurities, self doubt, inadequacy; or what every obstacle it may be for you.

Its okay to feel what you feel and allow it to manifest within itself and your life.  " Its that feeling you get and you say to yourself, am I doing life right"-Issa Rae.To be honest I don't know, but one thing I know for sure, I am doing everything in my power to figure that part of my life out.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

" Can I live, laugh and learn how to love my way." -Kishari

The Singles Club:Dating with Purpose, Acceptance, Expectations, Consistency, Letting go of the notion for closure...

The Singles Club:

Dating with Purpose, Acceptance, Setting Boundaries, Standards, Expectations, Consistency, Deal Breakers, Letting go of the notion for closure...

Calling all Singles! Yes it is time for me to finally go there. My name is Kishari and I am happily single. Being single has it's lonely moments but it also has its high moments as well. I don't know about you but I'm enjoying my singleness; being single is not a bad thing at all. Sometimes dating can be annoying. (LOL) I want to touch on the dating world, My experience and perspective on dating in general.

What I believe dating to be, is two individuals getting to know each other on a Intellectual level; and eventually can potentially turn into something more. What I mean by more is, a man pursuing a woman, committed to her only; with the purpose of one day calling her his wife. I've always been big on purpose in every aspect of my life. I believe every men and women should date with a purpose and not just date to date. If one is just dating just to date someone, there is no real connection between the two to build upon. You can build off purpose! Dating can be viewed as a personal goal; either it works or not. At the end of the day you can say to that men or women, you gave it your best shot; and that's what matters, knowing you tried to put one hundred percent in the relationship.

We all want to be accepted for who we are; but unfortunately we live in a society that tells us, we have to look a certain way to be and feel beautiful. Some of us are very blessed to come across great individuals who will praise you; no matter what color you are, if you have kinky or straight hair. It should all be viewed as beautiful creations of God. Coming from my dating experience, there were men who didn't like the fact I sometimes wear weaves and not my natural hair; or the fact that I didn't dress sexy enough for a date. That was something I couldn't help them with because I did not plan on changing who I am for anyone. That's where setting boundaries comes into play. People can only get away with what you allow. you have to set your boundaries, make your request known at the beginning stages; and always remain true to yourself and what you believe in. God made me who I am and what I have to offer, for someone special; who will accept me for who I am when the time is right.

When dating does not work out for you, its not the end of the world. You just continue being who you are and keep moving forward. Someone great and meant just for you is coming  your way soon. we have to start letting go of the notion for closure. Why is it that some of us need closure so badly, we go through extreme measures just to find out what we already know. "We are on a quest for answers to questions we think we need; and never stop to realize, the answer is always in the question." - Iyanla Vanzant

There it is right there! If you have to constantly ask yourself questions about whether

someone is consistent enough or if we are enough for that person; then maybe you are not and that's okay.You have the look at the possibility that you are not for everybody and everybody is not for you. We expect so much from others without considering it all as a whole. Acceptance, Boundaries, Standards, Expectations, Consistency, Deal Breakers; it all plays a role in dating. People like what they like and want what they want; I can respect that from someone who is being real with me.

We are all reserved for someone special and you should feel blessed about that. Make sure you enjoy your singleness and make it a good experience. When that special person finally comes  around,you will be enough, worthy, accepted, treated with respect etc... Always remember to date with a purpose in mind and never settle for what's expected.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"We are on a quest for answers to questions we think we need; and never stop to realize, the answer is always in the question." - Iyanla Vanzant

Other Plans!!! Are you content with your job or career?

Other Plans!!!

Are you content with your job or career?

I don't know about you but I want more. To be honest for some individuals, where they are right now is just as great as it gets for them; and that's okay if one finds contentment in that job and or career. Most of my inspiration for my writing comes from my personal experience, thoughts and feelings. One thing I've learned about inspiration, its all around you; whether its in a person, place or thing,  you just have to be open to the possibility.

I will be the first to admit, "I am not content with my job." I currently been working as a Nursing Assistant in a hospital for almost two years now; and don't get me wrong I feel valuable and honored to be apart of something great and impactful. I love helping people and I enjoy providing my patients with the care they need; to feel comfortable and have a positive healing process. One thing that is clear to me, I truly know in my heart that this is not where God wants me to be. I definitely believe he has a better plan, specifically for my life purpose; and the many things I am called to do in life.

If you too struggle with a job you don't feel content with, this message is for you too. The more out of place he or she feels, the eager ones quest for contentment becomes. Iyanla Vanzant once said, "The passion represents those things that you pursue for the sheer joy of it - those things that you do that make you feel alive and meaningful, valuable and worthy."

We all deserve a passion that allows us to express who we are; that makes us feel alive and free to be who we choose to be. I say if you are happy where you are, then be happy; and if you know its time for a change, then take that chance. Choosing a career can sometimes be difficult, but when you finally figure it out; you experience that desire of fulfillment. If you don't get it right the first time, its not the end of the world; well not just yet lol. Anything that God places on your heart is worth pursuing, but you never know if you don't try. Always remember, your now is temporary until you are ready for your permanent. Appreciate what you have and stay humble, until better opportunities present themselves to you.

With love, Kishari

Quote of the Day  

"Take what you are, what you have, what you can do and make it work for you." -Iyanla Vanzant