The Singles Club:
Dating with Purpose, Acceptance, Setting Boundaries, Standards, Expectations, Consistency, Deal Breakers, Letting go of the notion for closure...
Calling all Singles! Yes it is time for me to finally go there. My name is Kishari and I am happily single. Being single has it's lonely moments but it also has its high moments as well. I don't know about you but I'm enjoying my singleness; being single is not a bad thing at all. Sometimes dating can be annoying. (LOL) I want to touch on the dating world, My experience and perspective on dating in general.
What I believe dating to be, is two individuals getting to know each other on a Intellectual level; and eventually can potentially turn into something more. What I mean by more is, a man pursuing a woman, committed to her only; with the purpose of one day calling her his wife. I've always been big on purpose in every aspect of my life. I believe every men and women should date with a purpose and not just date to date. If one is just dating just to date someone, there is no real connection between the two to build upon. You can build off purpose! Dating can be viewed as a personal goal; either it works or not. At the end of the day you can say to that men or women, you gave it your best shot; and that's what matters, knowing you tried to put one hundred percent in the relationship.
We all want to be accepted for who we are; but unfortunately we live in a society that tells us, we have to look a certain way to be and feel beautiful. Some of us are very blessed to come across great individuals who will praise you; no matter what color you are, if you have kinky or straight hair. It should all be viewed as beautiful creations of God. Coming from my dating experience, there were men who didn't like the fact I sometimes wear weaves and not my natural hair; or the fact that I didn't dress sexy enough for a date. That was something I couldn't help them with because I did not plan on changing who I am for anyone. That's where setting boundaries comes into play. People can only get away with what you allow. you have to set your boundaries, make your request known at the beginning stages; and always remain true to yourself and what you believe in. God made me who I am and what I have to offer, for someone special; who will accept me for who I am when the time is right.
When dating does not work out for you, its not the end of the world. You just continue being who you are and keep moving forward. Someone great and meant just for you is coming your way soon. we have to start letting go of the notion for closure. Why is it that some of us need closure so badly, we go through extreme measures just to find out what we already know. "We are on a quest for answers to questions we think we need; and never stop to realize, the answer is always in the question." - Iyanla Vanzant
There it is right there! If you have to constantly ask yourself questions about whether
someone is consistent enough or if we are enough for that person; then maybe you are not and that's okay.You have the look at the possibility that you are not for everybody and everybody is not for you. We expect so much from others without considering it all as a whole. Acceptance, Boundaries, Standards, Expectations, Consistency, Deal Breakers; it all plays a role in dating. People like what they like and want what they want; I can respect that from someone who is being real with me.
We are all reserved for someone special and you should feel blessed about that. Make sure you enjoy your singleness and make it a good experience. When that special person finally comes around,you will be enough, worthy, accepted, treated with respect etc... Always remember to date with a purpose in mind and never settle for what's expected.
-Kishari
Quote of the Day!
"We are on a quest for answers to questions we think we need; and never stop to realize, the answer is always in the question." - Iyanla Vanzant
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