Out with the Old, In with the New!

Let's be honest, we can all use a little pick me up from this year. Maybe you experienced the loss of a loved one, struggled spiritually, financially, mentally and or emotionally etc..... I don't know your story, I just know we all can relate, considering similar circumstances. Sometimes we lose ourselves in the process of trying to figure out this thing called life. We place too much emphasis on the wrong things in life, in which causes us to stress, worry and feel inadequate etc... Going into the new year, I want to say this, "Its not the end of the world, if things don't go as planned". Its going to be okay! If God allows for you a new day, year, that is only confirmation for you to make things right in every aspect of your life. So let us end out this year with great intentions; to release the old and receive the new. By the end of this post, I challenge you to act on this journey; hoping this experience is a good one for you.

1. Declutter, Declutter, Declutter!

That's right! In order to make room for the new that's to come into your life, you have to get rid of the old.

• Start by shredding those old irrelevant documents.
• Donate old clothes and shoes you don't wear.
• Organize your belongings (clothes, shoes, documents etc...)
• Clean your home, car, work space (from top to bottom)
• Get rid of toxic people with negative vibes.

2. Set those Goals!

What's the plan? Always have a thorough breakdown of your goals for the year, 3yrs, 5yrs...

• First things first, start by writing it down.

As for......

Personal Goals:

• What can you do to better yourself as an individual, in every aspect of your life? Don't hold back. (Remember there is always room to grow and propel forward!)

Financial Goals:

• What are some ways you can invest in yourself and your ideas, save money for a rainy day, and or traveling....
• Commit to a budget and stick with it! (Budget your finances, down to your monthly reoccurring expenses, temporary expenses, and even treating yourself )

Mental Goals :

• Feed your mental!
• Try to stay positive in your day, by promoting self growth, positive vibes, speaking words of positive affirmations into your life. (Remember, that it is easiest to think negatively about yourself , a person, place or thing ; than it is to think positive about it.)

Emotional Goals:

Someone once said, "The trees are about to show us how lovely it is,  to let the dead things go."-Unknown

• Stay out of your feelings!
• Decide on the things and people in your life that serves you and your purpose.
• Let it go, whatever that is for you.

Educational Goals:

If you plan on finishing, continuing your education, going back to school; or seeking a New career field...

• Do the things that matter to you first. (Make sure this is something you want to do for you)
• Do your research. (make sure you cover all your bases, when making important decisions about your future)
• Make a plan for the school year and get ready to execute those goals.

3. Cleanse the Soul!

Yes I saved the best for last!

• Make sure you feed your spirit.
• Pray for what your heart desires.
• uplift others.
• Read your word (Bible), Inspirational Blogs, Daily Devotional etc...
• Manifest your heart desires and cast out all negative vibes.

Everything you do from this point on, make your days on this earth account for something. Try to find a balance in your life that will work for you.

Hope that you all are doing well,see you soon!

-Kishari

Comfort Zones: Moving on to better things!

Comfort Zones: Moving on to better things!

Purpose, moving forward, clarity, perseverance, understanding, growth, healing, positivity, patience happiness etc... In order to truly experience the value in any of these, you have to leave the current space you are in behind. That place is home to you, more like a safety net. One that you know you can depend on and it will never fail you. A place you look to as your confidant. The only place in the world you know and believe will fulfill your every need right now; and that is, your confront zone.

Comfort zones! To be honest it is not really a bad place at first, but going forward considering all aspects of life; it just does not fit into your lifestyle. Comfort zones are not suppose to be a thing. What I mean by thing is, it should not become priority in your life. You are suppose to get to a place of peace in your life, in everything you are trying to accomplish at that moment in time; Fulfill the purpose it is meant to fulfil and move on to the next level in your life. The moment you decide to stay in that place a little while longer, is where you have allowed yourself to be accustomed to comfort zones.

Drake once said in one of his songs, "My ex ask me where you moving?" I said on to better things." -Drake That is how we must treat certain things and people in our lives that that no longer serve us, or our purpose in life. The only way to truly experience the things you want out of life, you have to do things you have never done. Take bold risk and sometimes risk it all if you have to. Comfort zones unconsciously say to you, "Hey stop living and growing in every way that you possibly can." Don't you dare!

Allow yourself to live for once in your life without any restraints, even if its only for a second. You have to be able to do that with both feet moving forward. Yes, you will be uncomfortable for some time, but it gets better, you'll see! Always remember comfort zones are only place holders, designed to keep us safe for a little while; to get us comfortable and use to the idea of something worth having. Its something to have, just for the meantime; until new levels start evolving in your life. Its time to start moving on to better things, to experience all the good God has prepared before us.

-Kishari 

Quote of the Night!

"There is a flow with your name on it. Your job is to find that flow and let it carry you to the next level."-Oprah Winfrey

Feelings

In My Feelings

Some days we wake up feeling great and ready to face the world; and we have those other days ,where we just don't know how to feel. The feeling is very peculiar and it just feels like one of those days. You cant quite figure out why you are feeling this way or better yet how you've come to this point. So you ask yourself, "What is wrong with me? Why do I have this sad feeling within myself and this entire day. Sometimes we know why and sometimes we have no idea. We can not allow negativity to take us off our course. When I touch on certain subjects, I write from first hand experience. I'm sure anyone who reads this can attest to this state of mind. When I'm just having one of those days and in my feelings, I take a step back and reflect on my feelings; so that I can figure out how I got here. You have an obligation to yourself, to deal with your feelings. 

When it comes to feelings, they can stem from anywhere. The past tries to remind us of the feelings that once was, but we have to remind ourselves that it is behind us and take back our joy. The future has a way of telling us, this is what we can have, but what if this and that happens. See with me, I am very hopeful for the future. I am careful not to get too ahead of myself and of time, because that's where you place too many expectations on time. We all know if what we expect does not live up to its name, we will be disappointed. At times we have to keep in mind, things don't always turn out the way we want them to, but the way they are meant to. Think about whats true and what is,and then you can take it from there. 

We feel what we feel at that moment in time. That's a feeling no one can take from you, but what you decide to do with those feelings are up to you. Alex Elle once said, "My Joy is in my hands." All I could think about is that it most certainly is. You can choose to dwell on those feelings or you can release them back into the past. Everyday we have a choice to do things are way not matter what happens in the process. Always remember, the energy we choose to put out into the universe, is the same energy that we will receive in return.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"God never said the weapons wouldn't form, he said they wouldn't prosper". -Unknown

A Time for Everything

 

A Time for Everything

 

 

 I don't know how many times I thought the timing was right and was so wrong; or the timing was wrong but was right. The fact of the matter is, there is a time for everything.We are challenged daily on our ability to handle certain situations; and depending on those circumstances, will determine our readiness for every move we make in life.

 

That old saying, "When the going gets tough, tough gets going"-Unknown. I have witnessed that phrase happen, many times throughout my life; and I'm sure many of you can relate as well. Circumstances change all of the time, and although we may not be ready for that change; we have to learn how to adjust and make the best of it. God gives us the things and people in life we can handle, based on our readiness for those things. He will never grant us what we are not ready for. There is a reason for every person and experience in your life and most times we never see it coming.

 

Do you ever wonder why you keep asking for that degree, relationship. husband/wife, financial freedom, balance in life, understanding etc... and you have yet to receive any clarity for any of those things? It may simply be because you are not ready. When the time is right for you to have all that your heart desires, will be the time you are ready mentally, spiritually, emotionally.

 

Use this opportunity to think about the things you desire out of life. Are you ready for all that you are asking for? If so, how will you execute those plans, and if not how will you prepare yourself for your time.When something serves you or your purpose in life, you will know when you know! We don't always get it right, but we sometimes get a second chance to make it right. If you find yourself face to face with one of your desires or second chances, just know its time!

 

-Kishari

 

 

Quote of the Day!

"Just because its not happening right now, doesn't mean it will never". -Unknown







Love Lost, Love Found

Love Lost, Love Found

Have you ever been in love before? To the point you have lost consciousness of your total being. Unaware of others, your surroundings or anything that can possibly take you away from that love interest. You're unconscious to the fact, that your frame of mind is stagnant! Its somewhere in an in between place, lost through time and space. Sometimes we see, sometimes we can't see anything past that particular person. Love gives us what we need, and we give it the same in return; on separate levels of measurements. I know what your asking yourself, "What kind of mentality is that to have; or way is that feel about yourself?" The truth is, we don't start growing until we start experiencing; in doing so, will prepare us for the journey ahead of us.

If I was asked today, if I would rather have loved or lost, I will never permit myself to lose what I once loved. After all, I once loved that person. That love, it set the tone for the love found. The very thing that placed me in the position to love, grow, understand and cherish love itself; is something that can never be replaced. Maybe that love lost was sometimes a distraction, painful, miserable, inconsistent. Then again, maybe it was even comfortable, once happy; bring you joy, patience and humbled. Everything in life has its own time, we just have to know when it's our time to let go and move forward.We will never forget, but the spirit will place us directly in the position; to grow beyond what's expected of us from ourselves and others. We must never miss a step in life or think that its okay to skip a step. Every step is vital. That's why there is a process put in place, to make sure that we understand the decisions we made and why we go through certain things. I believe that we are conscious enough to know our experiences in life were not always the best; and at the same time it wasn't always the worst.

Find a way to appreciate the love lost. Think about everything it has given you? what you have learned from that journey? What you can take into the next lesson with you? Use this opportunity as a stepping stone for personal growth and fulfilment. Sometimes we find our way back to the love we lost, and sometimes it was meant for us to discover something new. Either way, If it wasn't for the love that was lost, you would never really truly appreciate the love that is found. We take what we have learned and we apply it to our lives for the betterment of self; and every aspect of our lives. 

-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!

"We lose ourselves in the things we love. we find ourselves there too."-Kristin Martz

Deciding What You Deserve

Deciding What You Deserve

There are two kinds of people in this world. The people who are affected by what happens to them; and the ones who choose not to let their circumstances consume them. Which one are you? I don't know about you but I desire to become the kind of person; that no matter what happens to me I will continue to press forward even when I am mentally drained. I've decided to be Okay and make the best of whatever life throws at me. I've had my fair share of both worlds, but we all know only the strongest survive. Rather we choose weakness or strength in the moment, we demonstrate daily our ability to overcome tribulation. Sometimes we consciously know when something is consuming our energy; Somehow we choose to ignore our better judgement and allow our emotions to lead us. 

Everything we deserve in life is absolutely up to us! When are you going to decide that you deserve to be treated better by a man who deserves you, as much as you deserve him? When are you going to start choosing yourself and stop trying to please everyone? When will you start to believe that you are enough just the way you are? When are you going to start doing the things that matter to you and stop seeking validation from others? When will you start working towards your purpose in life? When will you start trusting yourself and your gifts?

The moment you start making yourself a priority, is the moment you stop treating yourself like an option. How can you really be an option to yourself and place everyone and everything else priority over you? I never understood that frame of reference, but it is one to be persistent LOL. When we decide what we deserve in life, as well as who. We become the kind of person who receives exactly what we deserve. By choosing to look at life from a different perspective, we consciously and unconsciously invite deserving things and people into our lives.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"Don't go running scared of the unknown, make it run from you".-Kishari

Being Present

Being Present

There is nothing like being and living in the present moment. I realized real peace comes from a standpoint that is mentally, spiritually, physically and emotionally present. I will admit it feels so good to be, live, think and experience those precious moments for yourself. I know a little something about living in the past, I have been and lived there many times. Now, I am at a point in my life where I just don't like living in the past; But sometimes I find myself unconsciously revisiting it when I talk about things that happened a minute ago.Crazy right!

The real truth is, some of us are too comfortable there. In a place where we are not growing; Denying ourselves of any possibilities of growth and opportunities. Are we helping or enabling our freedom to be all we can be, by living in the past? Even when we truly know the past is no longer, why do we  continue to keep the past relevant? Because we are human and we have adapted to human tendencies; That has caused us to experience instant feelings, in response to our fears, circumstances, weaknesses and lack of faith.

We all deserve to be present! In that same dance we also have a choice; to keep doing the same ole dance or try something new, different and out of your comfort zone. T.D jakes once said, "Faith is not in the familiar, its in the unknown". When we know what to expect its no surprise, but when we just step out there willing to risk it all; is when we start living and being present. What is being present? Being present is confident, no worries, fearless, courageous, focused, joyful, happy, great energy and so much more.

Sometimes its okay to feel what you feel when you are feeling it. Don't apologize for doing what you feel either, just be you and the things that make you, you. Today try to stay within the present moment. Concentrate on where you are,where you would like to be, how it makes you feel; and what you need to do to be and stay present.

-Kishari

Peace&Love

Quote of the Day!

"The plan has always been to do what we love for as long as we can; I think that's all we ever do." -Tessa Thompson

You have to do the things that matter to you

You have to do the things that matter to you!

Sometimes you have to remind yourself of what you want. Having the vision is always the easy part, its the execution that gets us every time. You think about how you will carry out the vison and every aspect of it; and sometimes it can be nerve-racking not knowing the outcome. Also you have people who believe your vision is impossible, but something within you says that it is possible. Some people can't see your vision for what it truly is like you can; and that's okay its not for them to understand.  Keep that positive attitude my sister or my brother and it will take you far in life. You're not going to know every aspect of your life, that is Gods job to determine.

You have the power! The power to do the things that matter to you. When I first started my blog I didn't know how to navigate around it, or how to set it up. One day I went for it and posted my first blog that day. The fact of the matter is when you believe you can, you really can. Honestly I didn't even know if people were going to read my blogs, but I didn't care. What I did know is that I loved and wanted to write; and that was all the motivation I needed. Still until this day I continue to post the good news and inspiration for the people. I am at peace knowing everything I set out to do in life, I do it with great will power and integrity. I enjoy my journey and I don't regret not one thing.

Quote of the day!
"Find your light don't hide from what you are, and rise before you fall; and hope for something more, live if you really want to". -Yuna

Embracing Change

Embracing Change

While some are trilled about the experience of change, there are others who are fearful of the idea. I don't expect anyone to be on the level of change I am mentally. I can only hope they choose to experience change in a way that best suits them. The very thing that makes one fearful of change, is the thought things will be different from that point on. The real question one may ask is, how do you know if change is a good or bad thing? That's the things we don't know, all we can do is try and trust that the process won't let us down. When we invite change into our lives we are hoping to better ourselves, circumstances, encounters etc... Sometimes certain changes we will make, will mean we will have to leave certain people, places and things behind us; That are not willing to go where you are headed. We all have room to grow in every aspect of our lives and it won't happen over night.

Change is inevitable! It will happen whether we choose to leave those people or things in the past or not. People change and so do our circumstances. We cannot receive what God has for us if our thoughts and actions are stagnant. I understand how personal this topic may be for some people. The process is never easy. The thought of giving up your old ways of thinking and being; for a new ways of thinking and being. Although it may be a scary sight, it is necessary for yourself and your loved ones. I have been there and lived in a stagnant place in my life for a long time before. I wasn't growing as a person, with some of the people around me; or in opportunities. I was just there, going through life with no clear purpose. I was existing on my own terms and not truly living for myself. 

Today it feel good to have a purpose and to share one of my life purposes in life with my family, friends, and even ordinary people. You just have to put yourself out there and open yourself up to change. If you find yourself at a stand still, just keep trying. Change has a beautiful and sometimes peculiar way of presenting itself to you in a moment of need. I am no where near perfect, but I am at peace with knowing change exist, only if I am willing to do the work.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"The key to change is simply being open to it."

Finding Meaning in Life

Finding Meaning in Life

There is always something or someone worth seeking, but the real question is what is it that you are after? What does that something or someone mean to you? We all have a Purpose in life and the goal is to find that something and someone; and allow it to bring meaning to your life and your purpose in the most positive way possible. Will Smith once said, When you realize that the point of maximum danger, is the point of minimum fear; The best things in life are on the other side of your maximum fear. -Will Smith

When it comes to finding meaning in your life, you must be willing to search without restraints. Life is a trail and error process. I will say from experience, I went into a particular job thinking it will be my career field. I have also been that woman certain that a particular guy had enough potential to take to the next level. Oh how I was wrong about both areas in my life. Truthfully, I am now aware that the job I liked was not the career field for me and the guy I also liked was not the right guy for me. I never anticipated this to happen until one day It just did. As we move forward in life, we discover are likes and dislikes. What we love dearly and can't live without. This is how we find meaning in our lives. We pick and choose the things that really only truly matters and we find a way to release it into the world for the greater good; for yourself and others.

Sometimes in life we have to take the good with the bad and find our way as we move forward in life. There are no guarantees in life and no way to determine what God has planned for us individually. There is always a meaning to something or someone, you just have to be open and willing to search for what you are trying to find. At. times we don't know what that meaning may be but if you keep trying, that something and or someone will present itself to you so unexpectedly in the most remarkable form. When you can truly say you have found that, you have found meaning in your life my friend.

-Kishari 

Quote of The Day!

When you realize that the point of maximum danger, is the point of minimum fear; The best things in life are on the other side of your maximum fear. -Will Smith

As I am

As I am

When you've done things a certain way for so long, life gives us a chance to reflect and make choices based on our reflections. It introduces us to change, in which none of us are never prepared for. I am totally that person who analyzes everything lol. I like to see the root and cause of something. I believe Perspective plays a big role in how we view ourselves, the people and things around us. The fact that Perspective can change at any minute is just remarkable. Everyday we make a choice! We either choose to be ourselves or become someone else. A wise men once said to me, "Don't ever stop being who you are or doing the things that makes you happy for anyone; Those are the things that makes you, you". When you come across wise individuals, appreciate their presence.

Be the kind of person who will be ok if you're not accepted by others. People will always have an opinion regarding your life and that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Their personal opinions should never have an effect on your life; But when you are a child of God and actually care about people it does bother you sometimes. I believe that to be a natural reaction, but you just have to accept that's just who you are.  for instance, a good person never stops doing good deeds, even if they receive nothing in return.

This is your life and you run the show. What you allow in your space is your choice. When people don't accept you for who you are, that's okay! You now have the opportunity to do right by yourself and walk away from those people; and allow God to send the people who are meant to be in your life. My pastor stated this morning at service, "You have so many opportunities available to you as a child of God, yet we accept so little." -Pastor E.L Branch  All I could think about is why is that? Why don't we think we deserve it? I don't know everyone's story but I do know if you are one who feels as if  you  can't be yourself because of X reason; You deserve good people who will accept you for The who you are. We were all meant for a specific purpose, to be and do all that we can for as long as we can be. To alter your way of thinking, appearance, image, opportunities etc.... would be a shame. Do it your way, life that is; and don't regret not one thing.

Quote of The day!

"Change is a great thing for all the right reasons".

Lessons I am Learning in my 20's

Lessons I am Learning in my 20's

As we are growing within ourselves. Some of us are blessed enough to have loving parent's, to get us through childhood and has helped us transition into adulthood. You go out into the world with  perspective from your parents and yourself. As you go through life  there are some things you have to learn on your own. Thing that no parent can teach you and must experience for yourself. Your life is your responsibility and it is up to you to make something great of it. What better way to start learning lessons, than in your 20's. It is the start of your highest and lowest moments.

We will succeed and fail; we will also make mistakes. The good part about life is that even though we make mistakes, we also get a chance to make it right with God first and ourselves.
"Everybody has problems and everybody has bad times. Do we sacrifice the good times because of them? -Unknown
We must certainly do not! We continue to move forward and do our best and give our best self to the world just as we are. Here is just a few things I have learned and still learning in my 20's.


1. Do your best Now!!!

I cant express the importance of this statement enough. To be honest I wish I could of done some things differently in my life; but hey everything happens for a reason. I have learned that the Journey may have started off rocky but that doesn't mean it has to continue on that path. We have the opportunity yo do your best right now, without God holding it against us. How amazing is that! As my mom would say, Embrace the new, Enjoy the journey and Trust the process.

2. Do the things that matter to you.

It seemed like in my early 20's I wanted to do and have the things everyone else had; but now I want to do and have the things Kishari wants. You have to do the things that matter to you when it comes to your future, career, happiness, friendships, love life, family etc... If it matters to you do it! live for yourself and not for the opinions of others.

3. Appreciating the fact that I don't have all the answers.

If you had all the answers to life how will you enjoy it? How will you learn? How will you grow? You have to relax and allow life to flow naturally, trust me I know! When you try to have total control over your life, it will get out of control. You have to know and understand some things are just not within your control. Stop Over thinking!

4. Embracing my Singleness.

I've been single for awhile and to be honest I don't give the fact that I'm still single too much energy anymore. I just take this time being single to better myself as a woman; and to do the things that matter to me. When I run into the right one, at the right time in both of our lives ;will be the time. Until then I am in no rush.

5. Searching for Clarity.

6. Becoming self-sufficient.

7. Allowing myself to feel in the moment.

8. Embracing second chances from God.

9. Taking losses and viewing them as blessings.

10. Self Love Journey.

11. Rushing the process before it's time.

12. Becoming a Go Getter.

13. Being patient with myself.

14. Finding your Perspective on life.

15. Living your life through the circumstances.

16. Staying Positive in a negative situation.

17. Forgiving yourself and others.

18. Feeling blessed to have a Purpose.

19. Humbling myself.


Quote of the Day!
" You may have been searching for something or someone to tell you everything will be alright. Look within your heart and you will be just fine. - Iyanla Vanzant

Should you be doing more?

Should you be doing more?

We are constantly reminded daily by this little voice in our heads, that we should be doing more; to better ourselves and circumstances. Sometimes I feel like I am doing more than expected of me and sometimes I feel like I should be doing more. The truth is, we should be doing more. Everyday is an opportunity to better ourselves in that day itself. My mom once said to me, "Kishari, you place too much emphasis on a day." I didn't really give it much thought until I was overly obsessing about the amount of work and errands I needed to complete in a day. The problem was I thought I needed to complete everything in one day, or it wouldn't get done. I was trying to do more but the more I was doing, was costing me my peace of mind.

If you find that you should be doing more, than nine times out of ten you should. There is always room to grow in every area of your life; and at the same time you have to allow things to flow naturally. At times you are doing all that you can and other times, there is only so much you can do in any given situation. I have learned over the years, the key to doing more is staying within your control and allowing God to take care of the things out of your control. We will not always complete every task in a day and we will not know all the answers in life but we can do our best. I am hopeful for the future, that will allow for me to do a little more each day. 

Quote of the Day!

"I'm always doing that which I can't do, in order that I may learn how to do it."- Pablo Picasso 

Stop Settling for Less: Why am I considered too picky for not settling for less?

Stop Settling for Less:

Why am I considered too picky for not settling for less?

Why do people settle for less? The truth is, it may be multiple reasons; but that doesn't mean you have to. The reason I stop settling for less is because I know I don't have to. When I tell people I have been single for years and date occasionally. The questions some people may ask are, Why have you been single for so long but still manage to have a dating life? Why do you have deal breakers? You are too picky! I believe I deserve better than some of the men I have come across. This is not to say they were not good men, it is only to say we may have been on two different levels in life; mutual decisions or maybe we weren't compatible enough, in reference to chemistry, lifestyle choices, personalities, life goals, timing, and so much more.

Now I ask, why am I considered too picky for not settling for less? I am not finding something wrong with everyone I date or come in contact with; it is only because I know that God has someone special just for me. When you date with a purpose, you develop a mindset for something more. When you develop a settling mindset, less becomes normal to you. You don't care if you have less; you set no boundaries or set of standards for yourself or developing relationships.  

The real question some of us need to ask ourselves are, why don't you feel like you deserve better? I'm not implying that people should break up with their significant others, spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend etc....  I am only saying you should evaluate your circle and how they will effect your life long term. You are allowed to choose what you deserve and the people you allow in your life. You are not considered too picky for not settling for less; you're one who believes in self value and a purposeful life. The only limits to life are the ones you create!

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"Let go of what you're use to and wait for what you deserve."-Unknown

Mistakes are how we learn our lessons:

Don't regret not one thing!

Every day you make a choice! The only way we can truly grow as people and learn from our mistakes; is by making the same mistake more than once. You might not realize the mistakes you make all at once; but once you start to grow as a person, you start to see a pattern of your wrong doings.  When you can view your life from your own stand point, great things start to happen for your thought process. When your thought process has transformed, you see yourself, life and the people around you from a different perspective.

In learning from our mistakes, we learn our lessons. As we learn our lesson from one mistake, we continue to make other mistakes in the process. I know you’re probably thinking, “I can’t win for losing.” Hey, that’s life and that’s something you must accept and deal with so you can make the necessary changes in your life. Life is about making mistakes, and all we can do as the days go by; is continue to do our best. Sometimes we will get something right, and at the same time something else may come tumbling down; and we go flat line as if it’s the end of the world. I know because I do it! Sometimes I place too much emphasis on a day, as my mom would say. In reality its just on day. We have so much to gain and learn from the days ahead of us. At the end of the day, I know and you know it’s not the end of the world; if something does not go our way. Life will go on and so will you!

Peace & Love, Kishari

Quote of the Day!

“Don’t regret not one thing, Just let life flow where it should.” -Kishari

Creating Positive Relationships, Friendships, Encounters!

Creating Positive Relationships, Friendships, Encounters!

They say you are who you involve yourself with. I use to wonder myself, Is there truth to this myth? From my experience, I  can attest that this statement is not a myth. I've had my fair share of friends and encounters. In due time, I believe God will reveal to you the importance of creating positive friendships; and eliminating unhealthy friendships. In everything we do, whether its a friendship, Job, love or lust interest, habit; we must understand that life is all about trail and error. Iyanla Vanzant once said, " We watch and listen to others, believing they know all there is to know about love and relationships; the truth is that they, like the rest of us, are learning by trial and error." (Vanzant, 1998). She couldn't have said it better! People come in and out of our lives every day. Whether we decide to let them stick around or just let them go.

You never have to settle for less than you deserve, when it comes to anything or anyone in life. There was a point in my life, I wanted to keep a particular friend in my life; not because I needed him, but because I wanted him there. I didn't care if it was unhealthy and all wrong for me. In my heart I knew I was going about it the wrong way. At that point it was out of my hands; and God had taken control of that relationship and all the others. I'm saying to say, we pick and choose the things and people we want for our lives, but that doesn't mean that's how it will go. What's meant for us individually, will always find a way to be; as God designed for it to be. One day we will understand if not already, the true meaning to friendships, relationships, encounters etc...

As human beings we are still learning, but we must be mindful about the relationships we keep. Friendships should be about impacting each others lives in a positive way, encouraging each other mentally and spiritually; supportive, uplifting and building together, trust, truth, inspire; or whatever it may mean for you... Who knows what friendship means for one, everyone has their own perspective on relationships. As stated earlier, you are who you keep around. Just because you have history with someone doesn't mean they are healthy for your life; and just because that Job pays well, doesn't mean that job is for you. Always stay true to yourself and what you believe in. People and things come into our lives and fulfill its purpose; and sometimes that is all. They come and stay or come and go. Change is a good thing when you let it into your life.

Life only stops at certain people, places and things you allow it to. We learn everyday when we are faced with obstacles, circumstances, opposition; That it's not the end of the world. We deal with the crap in the road and we keep moving forward.

-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!                    

"Embrace the unexpected things that happens in your life."

"If you Win the Morning, you Win the Day." Finding Balance in your Day.

"If you Win the Morning, you Win the Day."
Finding Balance in your Day.

Some day's we as humans awake in the morning, feeling all type of ways. I am a true believer in setting the tone for the day. They say, "If you win the morning, you win the day." That quote has a ring to it, but if you don't put the work in, you will not see the results. Let me give you a little background on myself; I was a young woman in need of balance. I felt like my life was all over the place, in regards to school, work, social life etc... I would wake up everyday complaining of being overwhelmed. I created that negative energy and allowed it into my space. I wasn't at peace with anything I was doing because my mind was constantly at war with my lifestyle.

I had to learn for myself, if you don't get your life in order; your life will remain out of order. One day out of the clear blue, I didn't need to entertain negativity anymore. I got a glimpse of positivity and couldn't get enough of it. I understand we cannot change the circumstances of certain situations, but we can change the way we respond to those setbacks; by winning the morning. Start each day with the mindset for inspiration.

Here are some tips you can use for daily inspiration and for staying positive throughout the day!

1. Connect with God!

2. Read your daily word and daily devotionals

2. Journaling.

3. Plan your day by writing down your goals, plans, errands for the day; and check them off as you go. That will allow you an easy transition.

4. Eat a full and healthy breakfast.

5. Listen to music.

6. Get a Hobby (Painting, start a blog, DIY projects )

7. Grab a cup of coffee, tea etc... (whatever floats your boat)

8. Read an internet article or Inspirational Blog (SomethingToSayWithKishari)

9. Be a blessing to someone. (spiritually, emotionally or financially)

10. Positive Affirmations

11. Make a vision Board

12. Take a walk

13. Talk to a friend.

14. Read a book.

15. Go to the Gym (Exercise)

16. Volunteer, mentor

17. Limit social media usage

18. Spend time alone

19. Start a business

20. Date yourself (Don't be afraid to do or try new things on your own)

21. Travel

22. Stay true to yourself.

23. Give advice

24. Take advice

25. Do your best
26. Surround yourself with positive people.

Open yourself up to give and receive inspiration from people, places and things. Hope this is helpful to you, Now go find your peace.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"If you win the morning, you win the day."-Unknown

Stop Dragging Things On: Don't feel bad about being on a new level

Stop Dragging Things On:

Don't feel bad about being on a new level  

Its finally 2017! What a way to start the new year with a fresh start. When we think of the New Year we automatically start making plans and goals for ourselves. It is time for us to start acting on our actions and stop dragging things on! Although I am totally guilty of this myself sometimes, I can't stress this enough. Today is a new day and if something is over, whether it's a friendship, relationship, Job, argument, dating matter, guilty conscious, pain, closure, procrastination, bitterness; you get the point. Just be done with it so you can move on from it. We program our minds to believe, the things we hold on to are necessary for us to continue on with our lives. False! Allowing yourself to move from certain people and things that do not serve you or your purpose in life; does not make you weak, it shows that you are growing. So if you have things or people you know you need to get rid of, you can start now.

When you are at a turning point in your life where you are growing mentally and spiritually, you can not avoid the inevitable. your mindset will only level up to or tolerate certain people and things. Its not to say that you are better then anyone, its only to say you are progressing; and all the people and things that are holding you back are at a stand still not on your level. You will eventually arrive at a point in your life, where you will have no choice but to physically leave a situation; because mentally you are already gone. Don't feel bad about being on a new level, let those people rise up to your level. God grants you the desire to move into a place of peace and humbled mindset. The next time you are dragging things on from one level to the next, always remember a situation is only a waste of time if you didn't learn anything from it.

Sometimes some of us need a reality check, to remind us of who we are and who we know we can become. When you drag things on, it slows you down from your destination. I personally experienced a phase in my life where I thought, some parts of my life depended on the company of certain people and things. I thought I needed those people and things, not necessarily because I was happy with them; but because I didn't have the level of ability to see better things in a new or better way. The fact I allowed myself to stand in that phase proves I was weak; and the minute I decided I was miserable and didn't feel like I had peace, was the very moment I knew in my heart I wanted to grow beyond the familiarity.

I wanted to know me, what I could have, what I could do, what I could be, how I could be a blessing to others, how I could create and bring about positive impact into my community and world; But I knew I couldn't do that with the same kind of mentality that didn't embrace change. Take right now and think about what it is that you want and need right now? Are your wants and needs congruent in helping you grow from one level to the next? Meditate on these questions, then move forward from there.
Peace & Love
-Kishari


Quote of The Day!

You shouldn't base your entire life/destiny, off one ruff patch in your life; you still have the good times in the past and your entire life of good to look forward to." -Pastor E.L Branch

The Natural Hair Movement:What Black Men Think About Natural Hair

The Natural Hair Movement: 

What Black Men Think About Natural Hair

 Yes I'm Natural! Today we are talking Natural hair, preferably what some of the black men think about women and natural hair. I believe there are two different kinds of naturals. There is the natural who wears her hair in its natural state. There is also, the natural who alters her hair chemically. I am the natural who likes to wear my hair in its natural state, followed by twist outs, high puffs, protective styles: Sew ins, half wigs, braids etc...and every now and then, I decide to treat myself and my natural hair to a silk press; that may last only a few days due to the humidity lol, in which I will save that story for another days post. Some women choose the protective styling route for hair growth purposes and easiest to manage while in school, work and hectic life schedules. 

Firstly, I am in no way singling out every black man I am only speaking from my experience of men I've dated, friendships and even random strangers. I've had men compliment me on my natural hair, ask to touch my hair or is it real; and the best of all, touch it without my permission! Anyone who knows me knows, I am always honest when it comes to my natural hair or my protective styles; and have no issue with any of the questions presented to me. Some men go as far as only dating, women who don't wear weaves, and or prefer them with straightened hair. It makes me and my natural hair no difference, because I live my life, not looking to be accepted by anyone. I appreciate the men who allow me to express myself creatively, without any restraints.

 If there is ever a Black man who says to me, how I wear my hair is a problem, well that's just too bad! I am all about embracing my natural hair and different ways I can express it. I believe all women should embrace their natural hair, in which I also plan to wear my natural hair out more this year. Unfortunately, we live in world where there will be men who love natural hair and men who dislike natural hair. I think some men are on the fence about Natural hair and weaves, because of the perception the world gives off in magazines, or on television about how real beauty should look. silky straight! All forms of natural hair should be accepted whether its kinky or straight.

Being natural is a life style and a journey no one will truly understand. Every journey has a different story behind it. It helps us shape into our beings and open the doors for other journeys to progress; such as Self Love, Purpose and confidence. The natural hair movement is dominating right now. Do not be afraid to be authentic, be free and be natural!

 -Kishari

Quotes of the Day!
"Find the Confidence to embrace what you have, just as you are." -Kishari

"I was shy, but it came out in my big personality. My turning point was when I let my hair go naturally."- Tracee Ellis Ross