Creating Positive Relationships, Friendships, Encounters!

Creating Positive Relationships, Friendships, Encounters!

They say you are who you involve yourself with. I use to wonder myself, Is there truth to this myth? From my experience, I  can attest that this statement is not a myth. I've had my fair share of friends and encounters. In due time, I believe God will reveal to you the importance of creating positive friendships; and eliminating unhealthy friendships. In everything we do, whether its a friendship, Job, love or lust interest, habit; we must understand that life is all about trail and error. Iyanla Vanzant once said, " We watch and listen to others, believing they know all there is to know about love and relationships; the truth is that they, like the rest of us, are learning by trial and error." (Vanzant, 1998). She couldn't have said it better! People come in and out of our lives every day. Whether we decide to let them stick around or just let them go.

You never have to settle for less than you deserve, when it comes to anything or anyone in life. There was a point in my life, I wanted to keep a particular friend in my life; not because I needed him, but because I wanted him there. I didn't care if it was unhealthy and all wrong for me. In my heart I knew I was going about it the wrong way. At that point it was out of my hands; and God had taken control of that relationship and all the others. I'm saying to say, we pick and choose the things and people we want for our lives, but that doesn't mean that's how it will go. What's meant for us individually, will always find a way to be; as God designed for it to be. One day we will understand if not already, the true meaning to friendships, relationships, encounters etc...

As human beings we are still learning, but we must be mindful about the relationships we keep. Friendships should be about impacting each others lives in a positive way, encouraging each other mentally and spiritually; supportive, uplifting and building together, trust, truth, inspire; or whatever it may mean for you... Who knows what friendship means for one, everyone has their own perspective on relationships. As stated earlier, you are who you keep around. Just because you have history with someone doesn't mean they are healthy for your life; and just because that Job pays well, doesn't mean that job is for you. Always stay true to yourself and what you believe in. People and things come into our lives and fulfill its purpose; and sometimes that is all. They come and stay or come and go. Change is a good thing when you let it into your life.

Life only stops at certain people, places and things you allow it to. We learn everyday when we are faced with obstacles, circumstances, opposition; That it's not the end of the world. We deal with the crap in the road and we keep moving forward.

-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!                    

"Embrace the unexpected things that happens in your life."

"If you Win the Morning, you Win the Day." Finding Balance in your Day.

"If you Win the Morning, you Win the Day."
Finding Balance in your Day.

Some day's we as humans awake in the morning, feeling all type of ways. I am a true believer in setting the tone for the day. They say, "If you win the morning, you win the day." That quote has a ring to it, but if you don't put the work in, you will not see the results. Let me give you a little background on myself; I was a young woman in need of balance. I felt like my life was all over the place, in regards to school, work, social life etc... I would wake up everyday complaining of being overwhelmed. I created that negative energy and allowed it into my space. I wasn't at peace with anything I was doing because my mind was constantly at war with my lifestyle.

I had to learn for myself, if you don't get your life in order; your life will remain out of order. One day out of the clear blue, I didn't need to entertain negativity anymore. I got a glimpse of positivity and couldn't get enough of it. I understand we cannot change the circumstances of certain situations, but we can change the way we respond to those setbacks; by winning the morning. Start each day with the mindset for inspiration.

Here are some tips you can use for daily inspiration and for staying positive throughout the day!

1. Connect with God!

2. Read your daily word and daily devotionals

2. Journaling.

3. Plan your day by writing down your goals, plans, errands for the day; and check them off as you go. That will allow you an easy transition.

4. Eat a full and healthy breakfast.

5. Listen to music.

6. Get a Hobby (Painting, start a blog, DIY projects )

7. Grab a cup of coffee, tea etc... (whatever floats your boat)

8. Read an internet article or Inspirational Blog (SomethingToSayWithKishari)

9. Be a blessing to someone. (spiritually, emotionally or financially)

10. Positive Affirmations

11. Make a vision Board

12. Take a walk

13. Talk to a friend.

14. Read a book.

15. Go to the Gym (Exercise)

16. Volunteer, mentor

17. Limit social media usage

18. Spend time alone

19. Start a business

20. Date yourself (Don't be afraid to do or try new things on your own)

21. Travel

22. Stay true to yourself.

23. Give advice

24. Take advice

25. Do your best
26. Surround yourself with positive people.

Open yourself up to give and receive inspiration from people, places and things. Hope this is helpful to you, Now go find your peace.

-Kishari

Quote of the Day!

"If you win the morning, you win the day."-Unknown

Stop Dragging Things On: Don't feel bad about being on a new level

Stop Dragging Things On:

Don't feel bad about being on a new level  

Its finally 2017! What a way to start the new year with a fresh start. When we think of the New Year we automatically start making plans and goals for ourselves. It is time for us to start acting on our actions and stop dragging things on! Although I am totally guilty of this myself sometimes, I can't stress this enough. Today is a new day and if something is over, whether it's a friendship, relationship, Job, argument, dating matter, guilty conscious, pain, closure, procrastination, bitterness; you get the point. Just be done with it so you can move on from it. We program our minds to believe, the things we hold on to are necessary for us to continue on with our lives. False! Allowing yourself to move from certain people and things that do not serve you or your purpose in life; does not make you weak, it shows that you are growing. So if you have things or people you know you need to get rid of, you can start now.

When you are at a turning point in your life where you are growing mentally and spiritually, you can not avoid the inevitable. your mindset will only level up to or tolerate certain people and things. Its not to say that you are better then anyone, its only to say you are progressing; and all the people and things that are holding you back are at a stand still not on your level. You will eventually arrive at a point in your life, where you will have no choice but to physically leave a situation; because mentally you are already gone. Don't feel bad about being on a new level, let those people rise up to your level. God grants you the desire to move into a place of peace and humbled mindset. The next time you are dragging things on from one level to the next, always remember a situation is only a waste of time if you didn't learn anything from it.

Sometimes some of us need a reality check, to remind us of who we are and who we know we can become. When you drag things on, it slows you down from your destination. I personally experienced a phase in my life where I thought, some parts of my life depended on the company of certain people and things. I thought I needed those people and things, not necessarily because I was happy with them; but because I didn't have the level of ability to see better things in a new or better way. The fact I allowed myself to stand in that phase proves I was weak; and the minute I decided I was miserable and didn't feel like I had peace, was the very moment I knew in my heart I wanted to grow beyond the familiarity.

I wanted to know me, what I could have, what I could do, what I could be, how I could be a blessing to others, how I could create and bring about positive impact into my community and world; But I knew I couldn't do that with the same kind of mentality that didn't embrace change. Take right now and think about what it is that you want and need right now? Are your wants and needs congruent in helping you grow from one level to the next? Meditate on these questions, then move forward from there.
Peace & Love
-Kishari


Quote of The Day!

You shouldn't base your entire life/destiny, off one ruff patch in your life; you still have the good times in the past and your entire life of good to look forward to." -Pastor E.L Branch

The Natural Hair Movement:What Black Men Think About Natural Hair

The Natural Hair Movement: 

What Black Men Think About Natural Hair

 Yes I'm Natural! Today we are talking Natural hair, preferably what some of the black men think about women and natural hair. I believe there are two different kinds of naturals. There is the natural who wears her hair in its natural state. There is also, the natural who alters her hair chemically. I am the natural who likes to wear my hair in its natural state, followed by twist outs, high puffs, protective styles: Sew ins, half wigs, braids etc...and every now and then, I decide to treat myself and my natural hair to a silk press; that may last only a few days due to the humidity lol, in which I will save that story for another days post. Some women choose the protective styling route for hair growth purposes and easiest to manage while in school, work and hectic life schedules. 

Firstly, I am in no way singling out every black man I am only speaking from my experience of men I've dated, friendships and even random strangers. I've had men compliment me on my natural hair, ask to touch my hair or is it real; and the best of all, touch it without my permission! Anyone who knows me knows, I am always honest when it comes to my natural hair or my protective styles; and have no issue with any of the questions presented to me. Some men go as far as only dating, women who don't wear weaves, and or prefer them with straightened hair. It makes me and my natural hair no difference, because I live my life, not looking to be accepted by anyone. I appreciate the men who allow me to express myself creatively, without any restraints.

 If there is ever a Black man who says to me, how I wear my hair is a problem, well that's just too bad! I am all about embracing my natural hair and different ways I can express it. I believe all women should embrace their natural hair, in which I also plan to wear my natural hair out more this year. Unfortunately, we live in world where there will be men who love natural hair and men who dislike natural hair. I think some men are on the fence about Natural hair and weaves, because of the perception the world gives off in magazines, or on television about how real beauty should look. silky straight! All forms of natural hair should be accepted whether its kinky or straight.

Being natural is a life style and a journey no one will truly understand. Every journey has a different story behind it. It helps us shape into our beings and open the doors for other journeys to progress; such as Self Love, Purpose and confidence. The natural hair movement is dominating right now. Do not be afraid to be authentic, be free and be natural!

 -Kishari

Quotes of the Day!
"Find the Confidence to embrace what you have, just as you are." -Kishari

"I was shy, but it came out in my big personality. My turning point was when I let my hair go naturally."- Tracee Ellis Ross