Wednesday, October 9, 2019



Life Lessons:
 What I learned in my 20's!

There is just something about those 20 something's! We get so excited about becoming of age; we forget about the process. Here comes 18 and then 21, and then life starts to really happen. We were in such a hurry to do grown up things, until things are not as fun anymore and not going our way. No one is ever really prepared for adulthood, until the struggles, obstacles, lessons that we face starts to get real. That's apart of life, we figure it out along the way and keep moving forward. I would never wish I knew certain things sooner! For I am a student learning from the worlds most challenging teacher, Life. Learning from our mistakes is how we grow and then we make the adjustments from there. Now that I am officially 30, I can say your 20's are definitely your learning moments. Appreciate them! Here are a few life lessons I learned in my 20's.

1. Everyone learns the hard way.
There is no getting around this theory. I cant stress it enough, how many times I bumped my head; forcing things in life to be, that simply just were not meant to be. As I journed through my 20's, I was finally able to place acceptance towards the phrase, "You have to crawl before you walk". Had I not mastered crawling in my 20's, I would have never learned to stand, use my two feet and walk into my destiny! Some of the most wise and valuable advice comes from those who come before us; our parents, elders, mentors etc... Don't be too quick to shun the advice away. Yes you will make mistakes, but God gives us second chances to get it right.

2. You don't have to have all the answers to life right now.
I thought I needed to have life figured out in my 20's. I needed to know my purpose, career goals, have a nice car, apartment, material things; Hey, I even thought I should be married before 30 or so I thought. Little did I know I didn't know anything! I didn't have definite answers until my late 20's. That goes to show life pulls us in many directions; but in the end there is ultimately one way to go, Forward. God called you to carry out many particular task in life for a reason, just for you. Even if you don't have all the answers right away, be willing to be lead and learn as you go.  

3. You have to be Humble.
There is no way I could got this far in life without humbling myself before God, my experiences and aspects of life. There is so much more to life besides yourself that you should be fighting for. Don't forget to be patient, selfless, teachable and most of all grateful for all things and people that cross your path.   

4. Make yourself a Priority.
Always be willing to help others but don't forget to do the same for yourself. Be good to yourself, your mind body and soul! There is no better reward, than giving yourself what you need to help yourself prosper in life. As you start to put yourself first, you can be and do many things for others! You cannot give to others what you don't first give to yourself! 

5. Don't expect more than one can give.
There are people in your life, that you expect more from because you think highly of them; and that's a good thing, but don't expect too much where it consumes your energy. Sometimes people can deliver and sometimes they cannot. When that is the case, you are either left satisfied or disappointed. In reality, you are simply expecting too much from someone, than they could give. Also, what you need from certain people, they either don't have it to give or don't want to. Treat your expectations in people accordingly so no one gets hurt. When the tables are turned, only do what you can and don't feel bad about it.

6. Stay true to yourself.
A wise man once said, "Do the things that make you, you". Having that mentality helped me to stay true to myself. Who I am, my strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes and everything in-between. Those are the things that makes me, me. Everyone has certain qualities that set them aside from others. Stand firm on those qualities and embrace yourself for who you are!



7. Trusting the process.
The process is the good, bad and ugly! Its just simply the matter of letting go and trusting it. There are so many things in life beyond our control, and some things within our control as well. Everything happens for a reason! Do not focus on what you cannot fix, focus on what you can. Its your world, start creating what you want for yourself.

-Kishari

Thursday, May 16, 2019

No Work, No Play, I'm taking a Mental Health Day


                                    

No Work, No Play, I'm taking a Mental Health Day!


Have you ever walked into work and was simply just not feeling it? Work has been overwhelming and your personal life has been stressful; or maybe you are just winging it through life right now. You just can not seem to prioritize effectively. No, not Okay! I know that feeling all too well. There are not enough jobs that stress the importance of good mental health practices. Sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands; by declaring A Mental Health Day for yourself. That's Right, take the day off! You do not need a reason to take care of yourself, just a reminder that it needs to be done. 

Here are a few things you can do to make that happen. Catch up on a good book,go see a movie,Inspirational literature or blog, podcast, write/journal, personal errands, paint, take a walk, exercise, take up a hobby, try a new restaurant solo, go to a concert, stop by a coffee shop; use this time to connect with God etc...Do the things that you enjoy doing. Make this day all about you. Do whatever you need to do to get yourself right, for you; because at the end of the day it's your life and your mental health. 

You are entitled to take care of your health beyond a physical standpoint. There is a need for Mental, spiritual and emotional well being as well. Jim Elliott once said, "wherever you are, be all there." Meaning wherever you're in that moment in time, give it your all. Giving 100% in everything you do or dont do it at all;whether it's a job, education, helping others and most importantly caring for yourself. If that means taking the day off to cater to your personal needs;so that you are able to give your full potential then so be it. You cannot give to others,what you cannot give to yourself. You just dont have it to give but maybe tomorrow you will.

Self-care is one of the most underrated practices, people often forget to engage in. Get in the habit of implementing self-care practices into your daily routine. Be good to yourself, your mind,body& soul; and it will be good to you.
-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!

"Remember, you are in control of how you show up in the world."- Alex Elle 

Saturday, February 9, 2019

Showing up for Purpose


Showing up for Purpose


Who is showing up for Purpose? Your purpose! In life I believe there to be more than one purpose to be fulfilled, by one person. We ask ourselves "what is purpose? what does it mean to me? How can I apply it to my life for the betterment of self and others? 
T.d Jakes once said, "God doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies those he calls". That's right, we are all called to carry out a divine purpose in life and be used in ways bigger than we could have ever imagined. Whether we choose that particular person and or path in life or not. Purpose chose you and as we go through life, we unconsciously choose it.  

Change is inevitable, just as purpose. We make plans for out lives and believe that is the ultimate way things should go .That may be true for a while, until it is time to move on to another purpose. I also understand some people are set on one purpose and do not like much to change. As humans we are reluctant about change; but i assure you  it was set up to keep moving forward. You will know when you know! When you have a purpose on your hands,when you have fulfilled that purpose, when you are no longer needed: and when its time to move on to the next. God called you for a reason to step into that purpose. I do not know why, he just did! Whatever the case may be for you, one thing for sure and two things for certain; its for a reason. Even when  you think you are not ready for what is about to happen in your life, take that risk and you will figure it out. 

With that being said, the next time you are unsure about your position in that persons life, helping others, job, career, on that particular path etc... Think about what position you are playing in that moment in time. Are you showing up for it? Are you doing all you can to give it meaning? Has it expanded your perspective? Are you staying true to yourself in the process? My friend, that is what you call a Purpose. Make sure you show up for it and watch it show right back up for you. 

-Kishari 

Quote of the Day!
"In a world full of many people, we all have something amazing to offer one another".


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